6.I’m not very mature and I was not well equipped to be in a relationship with you. Usually people say they're late because of traffic or the bus beforehand. I am calmer and weigh options more carefully, and think ahead more carefully. Repressed ones pile up and ultimately drain you. I made my routine and stuck to it, even if I didn’t want to. Take care. Your opinion is the only one that should count here. and waited. Of course not. Even more outrageous was the fact that he said we’d go for dinner as some pseudo apology, then announced that he got an invitation to do something and made it clear that he was going to go do that instead ~ without an apology or any acknowledgement that he was bailing on the plans that he had just suggested. My boss is passive. Understandably so. It was the first thing I ever did in my life that I really wanted to be good at and was never encouraged at it/ was sabotaged by both of them for years and interestingly spent most my life after sabotaging other interests of mine. Sometimes our gut knows before our head does. It’s been this way from day one. If it happened more than once, I would strongly consider not dating him. But it does give me an excellent opportunity to face the things I had to face as a kid with new tools/awareness. Sorry Andy, but I have zero understanding for your problem. (This post really has got me thinking). I know a few attractive, thoughtful men, but the thing is you will never meet them if you allow your time to be wasted via inconsiderate people. Now: I’m going to assume you want to know how to get a girlfriend and hope to keep her around. One of my sisters learned to walk home. Every individual is different, especially via texting. Thank you, Suki. When I wisened up I saw that it was part of his passive-aggression, his sense of entitlement and complete unconcern about the effect he was having on me and others. It’s telling you the truth about him. I’ve been experiencing chest pains for the last couple of weeks. That is exactly what I had to face up to with my recent AC. When you’ve grown up being late it takes something to click in order to empaphise with those who find it a to be a problem – and I now realise that eveyone should find it a problem. Whatever it is, we’re not built for ignoring and neglecting ourselves. I absolutely hate being late and feel extremely guilty and embarrassed about it but I really don’t know how to fix it. The issue with the therapist seems to have stuck with you and of course too what your ex did the one time you were late. In the meantime, he is not doing anything to you but leaving you alone. If however the guy you are going out on a date with is going on forever and a day about his life, his job, his car, his family, his dogs …his, his his …. It may comfort you to remember that they aren't doing this to you--it is a result of their inability to listen, and to be organized. Suppose someone were offering a chronically-late person a million dollars if they were at a certain place by noon. If it happens once and they tell me, i don't care. Every last thing we do as humans is about trying to meet our emotional needs. No explanations, no recriminations, no guilt. When she does turn up she spends her time talking and not helping. You are calling them inconsiderate for not understanding your lateness? Here’s what he had to say about this: “right there’s one thing that’s really getting on my nerves these days, and it’s girls agreeing to a time but then trying to change it last minute, then being late. -Plan B – removing from the environment completely – having a high turn over of staff is yet more proof there is a problem they are unwilling to grapple with and in denial over – so I am really glad to read you write you will leave – it is a repeatedly unhealthy environment I read in your postings in a very short time. We have the choice to leave – and to stop making arrangements with them when they obviously see us as “less than” them, and treat us disrespectfully. Now, I am alone. That is the question I asked myself/ ask myself regularly – when I am being good to myself. But, I’ve mentioned before that when he is in the office he is mostly kind, patient and supportive. Just share your experiences. Link in bio and available on all podcast players. I told her I went out with a cousin, to which NPD coworker said “Oh, I guess we blew each other off, then!”. Guess what though? What happened when my Dad finally showed up? And refuse to discuss it with them. I hope you can give me some advice. I could go on, but you get the idea. I started timing myself, and setting routines. The director in question has been there longer than my boss and has, what seems to be, a close relationship with the v.p. I won't be scheduling future dates with this person because they obviously don't value my time. Total inconvenience either way though…, Once and first time round though and not letting such be an occasional thing that I put into practice for the late comers (friends, family or otherwise). Years ago I subscribed to:   http://www.flylady.net/. As per the parent – I felt highly anxious and angry and hurt and helpless, weekly for over 12 years, at being left by her, especially as she chose to often be with others. 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